5 Tips to Help Deal With Feeling Under Appreciated

5 Tips to Help Deal With Feeling Under Appreciated

Hello all, I’m sure you noticed my disappearance last week, you’ll have to forgive me. It wasn’t intentional of course, I had a huge amount of life stuff fly at me all at once and I needed the time to take care of it. A breakup, negotiating a few friends moving in, putting together a surgery which I had taken care of this morning actually, and finally quitting my job and starting a new one.

Over the past four years at my job, I’ve always felt very under appreciated. I dealt with it mostly by burying my head in the sand for three years, but when I moved to Detroit I decided to take on a different attitude. Over the past year I discovered a few different techniques to help deal with this feeling, and in the end I realized that I was over exaggerating just a little bit.

5 Tips to help you feel valued

  1. Work Hard for Yourself

First things first, if you feel under appreciated, you have to realize that a huge portion of feeling this was starts at home! Sometimes you need to reassess things, and realize that on occasion, we’re trying to live for everyone else.

If this is the case, you should start to take pride in what it is your doing! If you feel under appreciated in the collaboration your working with, view it in a different light.

Working hard for yourself creates a different mindset. Viewing the work that you do as gopher work, stuff that no one else wants to do, is eventually going to start wearing on you. Instead, focus on working hard for yourself.

Do the work that you do, and focus on being the best at it. Working hard gets you ahead, no matter what it is.

  1. Pay It Forward

If you’re not feeling appreciated, a solid way to start counter-acting this is to start showing thanks for those around you. Give credit where credit is due, and you’ll start to see a change in those around you where people start to reciprocate.

Now let me be clear here for a second, I’m saying you need to shower them with praise, the last thing you want to be viewed as is a brown-noser. But if someone does a good job, don’t be afraid to let them know.

Pay it forward and you’ll see that your influence, the fact that you’re willing to show others appreciation, will entice them to show you the same.

  1. Closely Analyze the Situation

Could it be that you’re being over-sensitive to the situation? I’m not accusing anybody of anything, but I was in a situation for a long time where I constantly thought that my position at work was under appreciated.

As it turns out the number of people who did enjoy having me around and needed me there vastly out numbered the people who didn’t. For three years I complained about that job, and the fourth year I turned around worked my tail off, so much so that I was generously rewarded at work and was then offered a position at a different company.

In the end you want to closely analyze the situation, and see if how you’re perceiving things is actually how it is.

  1. Value Your Work

Valuing your work is probably the best thing you can do. On top of working hard, it’s still easy to feel unhappy. Value what you do, value how hard you work so that you can feel good that regardless of how other people view your work.

One big secret about valuing what you do is the pride that comes from working hard and valuing yourself. It builds a mindset of success that you can apply to any area of your life.

When you build this tool, this mindset of taking pride in your work, it gives you an avenue in life. People value individuals of this nature, and no matter where life takes you, you’ll find that people can respect and will put you into positions that are vital to the life of a company/project/ect.

  1. Look Elsewhere

If you truly aren’t being valued, and you can’t do anything about it because nothing is working, then you should look elsewhere. If you aren’t being appreciated in your relationship, at work, or in the side project you’re working on, why would you stay?

While you don’t want to be over sensitive in your situation, you do deserve respect and gratitude. So if it truly becomes to much to bear, look elsewhere. Appreciation is vital to our happiness, we all want to feel like we matter.

In the end, go for what matters in your world, pursue what makes you happy. Don’t let others stand in your way.


Stevenson Grey