Getting Rid of Your Annoying Tendencies
How to Stop Poking People
I will fully admit this as being a fault of mine. For the longest time, I would just poke people. Not like as in the psychological poking where you push their button just to bother them (not that I’m not guilty of that too). I mean like I would walk up to people and just poke them. Whether it was to get their attention or just to surprise the chard outta them. Now, of course, I’m not super proud of this, after all, who likes to be that guy? Well, what started out as a way to bother my best friend eventually got hooked inside of my brain and I couldn’t stop doing it. So when it all came crashing down that I was being an absurd ass, I knew for a fact that this was one of the first things that I needed to change. Therefore, I set off on my journey of self-correction and decided that I wanted to try the best way that I could possibly think of to correct my annoying traits. To mean, there were three possible ways to get through to my inner psyche that could possibly work. Gently tuning it out, Replacing it with another trait, or Going Cold Turkey. Ultimately, I decided that the last option on this list was for me. But of course, you can choose amongst them or test which process might work for you.
Technique #1: Gently Tuning it Out
This one I’ll admit is a pretty straight forward process. Essentially when you choose this process, you catch yourself whenever possible, and prevent yourself from doing it withing reason. This works well because essentially you aren’t putting a ton of stress on yourself. Over time, repeating this process, you find out that it’s easier over time to eventually stop doing it. However, with this function, there are two really big issues that will mess up and frustrate you and others to no end.
Con number one is the fact that maintaining your motivation in this particular avenue is extraordinarily difficult. Motivation only lasts so quick, which means you need to instill a sense on discipline into your system, which can be tough if you’ve haven’t done so before. On top of that, along the way, people will in fact still think you’re annoying until you get to the end, which can also suck because you’re are trying to make progress. One of the biggest killers to progress is naysaying.
Technique #2: Replace it with Another Habit
I’ve seen this trick work…on occasion. Out of the three techniques, I advise against this one. The trick here is that you are supposed to replace the habit with another habit until you manage to delete the annoying habit. However, many people do this incorrectly and replace it with another annoying trait rather than replacing it with a good trait. If this happens and you don’t manage to complete this successfully, you’ll fail, or worse, just saddle yourself with yet another annoying trait on top of the first annoying trait.
One thing that I’ve seen help is when you replace the habit with a good one. For those who benefit most from positive reinforcement, My friend replaced a habit of getting off the wall at a moment’s notice with trying to keep her energy levels at an even pace as suitable for the environment. The result of this is that she’s gone from someone who looks a manic individual in situations to someone who’s become the life of the party. This can work for those who find it easier to switch tracks and are really good at rewiring tracks suddenly. However, I recommend the third technique the most, mainly because it works well when you have the determination to change an aspect of yourself.
Technique #3: Going Cold Turkey
While this may seem like I’m comparing a trait that considered annoying to a cigarette addiction, I’m certainly not. This particular technique requires a lot of monitoring, discipline (which is totally going to be an upcoming article) and positive reinforcement. With Going Cold Turkey, you are obviously just shutting off any want to enact said annoying trait. To me, this helped because it allowed my to laser focus in on stopping the problem and focused on catching myself in the process of each thing.
Here you have to watch yourself carefully as you interact with people. Don’t analyze yourself, just watch out for the annoying behavior. When you see happening or about to happen, you stop yourself (for instance, I grabbed my finger as I reached out to poke someone). Finally, I would congratulate myself for catching it and remind myself the fights not over yet. This, in turn, helped me end my habit. It certainly helped me, I think it can help you too!